Thursday, August 20, 2009

Alan at Metropolitan Head Office - Cape Town


Positive Affirmations:

What you think and say and send out into the universe determines who you are and what you will experience in life.

Using affirmations (i.e. saying positive things about yourself) is a practical and useful way of doing this. In my own case, I had to say to myself over and over again that I am a perfect creation, that God had not made a mistake in creating me. As a woman, it may involve saying that you are strong and loving, and that you deserve the best that life has to offer. There is more to it, however, than just saying these words; you must say them so many times that you truly begin to believe them.

When you awake in the morning, look yourself in a mirror and say, “For today I am perfect, whole and complete, I am all I need to be, for today.” Remember that loving yourself and seeing yourself as perfect goes against much that society tends to teach us: never use the word, I; it is vain, etc. But there is a huge difference between self-love and selfishness. The need to believe in oneself, and, indeed, to love who and what you are, is essential to your ability to love others. How can you love someone else unless you first love yourself?

This is an ongoing process because, as things change, and you evolve and grow, you continually need to reaffirm to yourself that you are perfect again for today.

It is with a sense of anticipation and aspirations that we enter into relationships with other people. We marry the person we love, hoping that they will bring us happiness. Or we engage in friendships because we want to get something out of them. How often have you heard someone complain that they are the one who does all the loving? “You never tell me that you love me,” they say.

Now, it is without a doubt a fact that we all need to be told that we are loved. But the love you seek should start with yourself. If, instead of entering into a relationship to find happiness with someone else, you acknowledged that the only person who can really make you happy is yourself, you would not be so disappointed when the person you have put all your hopes on ends up being simply human and reveals faults and weaknesses. How many marriages have failed because either one or both partners feels that the other person no longer fulfils them?

Start today by saying: I am all I need to be for today. I am responsible for my own happiness. I am not a victim, I am a unique and powerful, loving human being that is able to give and receive love. I embrace all that life has to offer me.

I have chosen not to allow myself to be a victim of HIV and AIDS. I have released myself from past experiences and forgiven myself for past choices. I am free.